Last Updated on October 6, 2021 by Anne Grove
Do you see yourself achieving something BIG? Or do you think BIG success is for others but not you? I heard something recently from motivational speaker Bob Proctor which changed my mind about success and failure. He said,
It’s your story. It’s yours to tell. If you knew this- you would do it today”Bob Proctor
Who’s telling YOUR story?
I’ve often viewed my life as if someone else were telling the story. In this life view, I’m a spectator watching the movie of my life rather than participating being the leader of it. For some people this would be a relief because they don’t want to take the lead. Why not? Maybe they’ve never been taught how or don’t feel like a “born” leader. These ideas might be true but I think a big reason someone wouldn’t want to lead their own life is: Fear of Failure.
What is keeping you from achieving something BIG?
Fear of failure keeps many people from writing their own story because we fear what we don’t know. Others have failed doing what we would like to. We visualize our own failure more than success.
“Failure will motivate us toward the next level of success or it will kill the dreams inside”
How to look at failure
- A person might fail because what they are doing was not meant to be their area of success. Sometimes we choose to do things based on the success we see others attain and assume our own pursuit of it will guarantee the same results.
- We might judge another person or ourselves as a failure prematurely. What might look like failure is really not failure when you look at it from the perspective of time or process. There are processes to possessing something or achieving a goal and if we judge ourselves or others before the right time we can assume failure. But, we could be anywhere on the timeline of success or maybe right in the middle of taking a risk.
- Huge fails lead to huge climbs. Or conversely, huge climbs can lead to huge fails. There are many stories of those who committed to the process, lost it all, and fought their way back to the top.
- You cannot fail at being you. You might fail at being someone else but you cannot fail at being you. Each of us are completely unique.
- You can achieve success in any area but your process may be different than someone else. Someone’s success or failure can be used as a guide but you can never work another’s process step by step and expect the exact same results. Don’t trust anyone’s plan or 1-2-3 system as gospel for your life.
Achieving something BIG
If we can make a mind shift away from fear based narrative into the one Bob suggests we can change our outcome. Instead of fear let’s look at things with surety of our success. Think of your dream and visualize the surety of achieving it.
When you know it’s your story and only you can tell it then you might as well tell it yourself- your way. If you realized today the outcome of a dream you had many years ago- wouldn’t you wish you’d got working on it years ago? Think how much farther you’d be today if yesterday you’d known of your success. That’s the mindset you need today. Be sure you will succeed and use everything you have today to make it a reality. And instead of winding up here where you thought you’d be -wouldn’t it be great to wind up there to the place far above where you imagined your life?
If you knew today the success you’d have from writing that book, from getting that degree, from taking a leap in any area of your life- you would get started on it right away!
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